Adopted From Romania is an interactive page created for and with Romanian adoptees and those who love them. We’ll be continually adding information, so check back often. We hope you’ll use the comment box below to add your thoughts and suggestions. Among the topics we’ll be covering so far, you’ll find information on:
- Romania gatherings & events
- Romania adoption support groups
- Romania films
- Romania books
- Adoptee loyalty
- Fitting in & standing out
- Romania language
- Romania blogs
- Birth parent search and reunion in Romania
- International adoption resources
- Reflections from Romania adoptees
We are open and available for covering topics you’d like to hear about as they relate to being adopted from Romania. Drop us a line below about something we’re talking about, or something you would like us to talk about. We look forward to hearing from you.
Adoptee loyalty tends to play a strong role in an adoptive family, and can strongly influence an adopted person’s response to birth country travel. Yet, quite often at workshops, when we ask for a show of hands as to who understands the concept, only a few hands go up.
Many adoptees feel a loyalty to their adoptive families that effects what they are comfortable sharing. They may feel uneasy acknowledging their true interests about visiting their birth country (or perhaps the interest is not there yet, or maybe it never will be).
For kids who have an interest in their birth country but are conflicted by adoptee loyalty, their inner thoughts may sound like this: “I was always afraid to mention my interest in my birth culture or birth family. If it hurt my Mom and Dad’s feelings, and they didn’t love me anymore, who would love me?” Don’t be fooled—even kids who are “pushing your buttons” frequently acknowledge this inner conflict.