Adopted from Colombia

Adopted From Colombia is an interactive page created for and with Colombian adoptees and those who love them. We’ll be continually adding information, so check back often. We hope you’ll use the comment box below to add your thoughts and suggestions. Among the topics we’ll be covering so far,  you’ll find information on:

adopted from colombia

  • Colombia gatherings & events
  • Colombia adoption support groups
  • Dating
  • Colombia films
  • Identity
  • Colombia books
  • Adoptee loyalty
  • Fitting in & standing out
  • Colombian/Spanish language
  • Colombia blogs
  • Birth parent search and reunion in Colombia
  • International adoption resources
  • Race
  • Reflections from Colombian adoptees

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We are open and available for covering topics you’d like to hear about as they relate to being adopted from Colombia. Drop us a line below about something we’re talking about, or something you would like us to talk about. We look forward to hearing from you.

ADOPTEE LOYALTY

Adoptee loyalty tends to play a strong role in an adoptive family, and can strongly influence an adopted person’s response to birth country travel. Yet, quite often at workshops, when we ask for a show of hands as to who understands the concept, only a few hands go up.

Many adoptees feel a loyalty to their adoptive families that effects what they are comfortable sharing. They may feel uneasy acknowledging their true interests about visiting their birth country (or perhaps the interest is not there yet, or maybe it never will be).

For kids who have an interest in their birth country but are conflicted by adoptee loyalty, their inner thoughts may sound like this: “I was always afraid to mention my interest in my birth culture or birth family. If it hurt my Mom and Dad’s feelings, and they didn’t love me anymore, who would love me?” Don’t be fooled—even kids who are “pushing your buttons” frequently acknowledge this inner conflict.

 

One Comment on “Adopted from Colombia”

  1. Such an important to work through. I totally get how an adoptee would not want to hurt their families and yet, these feelings need to be addressed. It is up to us to create the space that allows for open discussion and real sharing. Consciousness of “adoptee loyalty” is the first step in understanding the possible inner conflict that might be going on.

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